In July, Rich and I celebrated 6 years of marriage! And WHEW CHILE, last year was the hardest year yet, hence, why we started couples therapy. We (mainly I) noticed there was a disconnect in our communication.
According to our therapist, we’re TOO responsible. Like SERIOUSLY?!? One can be TOO responsible…I guess so (Kanye shrug). Over the past few years we’ve been putting off the fun things to focus on our long term goals and daily responsibilities. It wasn’t until we had a therapy session talking about what we used to do for fun in the past, that we realized just how much we missed doing those things. Yeah, we would go on a trip here or there but we weren’t DATING.
One of the best exercises our therapist had us commit to, was going on a date at least twice a month and taking turns planning the date. That was the best thing EVER for us because we love surprises.
6 years of marriage has taught me:
- Marriage is what you make it.
- Do what works best for your marriage and don’t compare it to someone else’s.
- Learn your partner’s love languages and be intentional about loving them in that way.
- Never stop having fun.
- Communicate no matter how long you’ve been with your spouse, they are not a mind reader.
- I recently saw this on a friend’s instagram page and it REALLY resonated with me. “Getting married doesn’t mean that the search for love is over. The search for the person to love is over, but the search for how to love that person is just beginning.”
Are you married? If so, how long and what are some of your biggest lessons?
P.S. We celebrated our Anniversary with dinner at Ocean Prime and BWOY was it delish!